I remember one time I had a phone interview for a new position.
It was going well when Julie broke in to tell me that Caleb had gotten hurt and needed a Band-Aid.
I had the presence of mind to gather my keys, lock the office and head over to CVS where they have the Band-Aids.
In our house needing a Band-Aid means Caleb is bleeding.
It doesn’t mean he’s in mortal danger. He has come to associate Band-Aids with healing and relieving pain. The Band-Aids are important to him psychologically. As with any child, parental concern is also important to his sense of safety.
So I kept the interview going and placed myself on mute. Got the Band-Aids, hustled home and delivered them with a flourish. The child needs to know we are there for him when he gets hurt.
I still thought the interview was going well. At some point I brought up what happened as an example of my ability to prioritize and multitask.
Hung up the phone still thinking the interview had gone well.
When I got a follow-up phone call I was informed that they thought it was terribly unprofessional.
Now the guy telling me this seemed to believe I was supposed to feel bad or something.
Quite the opposite. I was angry.
I told him flat out that I was glad it happened because anyone who thinks a bleeding child is less important then focusing on a couple of interview questions is not someone I want to work with.
And I really did mean that when I said it.
I have a bit of personal folklore that I hold as gospel. When someone reveals their character in a way that demonstrates they are to be avoided, I avoid them. They are canceled.
I have no ill will toward these people but I have lived long enough to know that when someone reveals who they really are then they are not to be trusted under any circumstances or for any short or long term profit reason.
As I started this message, this is yet another example to work for yourself. People who don’t get it don’t get it. And if they are in a position to control you, to order you around and if they have low character, eventually they will harm you. You’re putting your well-being in the care of people who do not care about you.
The only person who cares about you is you. Yes starting a business can be difficult. Building a business can be difficult and maintaining it can also be difficult. But the payoff of being in charge of your own destiny is worth the effort.
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