The idea of being confident or not is mostly a trap of quicksand. The best thing to do is walk around it. The next best thing you can do is to simply do the thing that you think you want to do.
Once we begin doing things we definitely feel our feels but we have something to hold onto. The doing of the thing. We see what’s working and we see what’s not working. We might look for some assistance or research a solution. But actually doing something feels good because you are proving to yourself that you can do it.
I’ll give you a quick example. We had a persistent clog in the sink. I knew it was going to be expensive to have a plumber fix it. I did not want to pay that bill.
So I knew a little bit and started with the plunger. Didn’t work. Then I actually went to the hardware store and purchased a drum-like contraption that had a flexible 20 foot metal rod in it. That didn’t work. Then I went to the grocery store and bought some Drain-O. The advertising on the label says it worked in 15 minutes. It didn’t. It didn’t work after an hour or after two hours. But then miraculously after eight hours the clog was gone.
Throughout the process I was doing something. Yes I was concerned that it wasn’t going to work and I was going to have to wind up paying the plumber. But it wasn’t so much confidence as it was being engaged in solving a problem. After a couple of hours of the Drain-O experiment not working I figured I had done everything I could do. I just didn’t get the result I wanted.
Maybe because a clogged sink smells so nasty I simply got to trying to fix the problem. I didn’t want to do it but I simply did what I knew to do. Along the way I googled a couple of YouTube videos and a couple of websites. They mostly said don’t use Drain-O. But a couple of them did. Now the funny thing is that not one of the resources I found said it would unclog the sink after eight hours. But I did what I could do and maybe I was lucky but it finally did work.
The same thing goes with writing a book. There’s plenty of advice out there on how to get started including mine. But you do have to get started. You can’t wait for the self-confidence. It comes from doing it. At this point I am pretty confident that I can unclog a drain. Actually in most cases the plunger works and if that doesn’t work the snake works. I’ve never used Drain-O before but I kept doing what I knew how to do and I finally got the results.
The same thing goes with writing a book. You may know how to do a little bit and that’s great. But then you might get stuck. Then you might come up with a new way and after a little bit you might get stuck again and that’s OK.
The important thing is that you keep going. That’s where self-confidence comes from. It doesn’t come before the thing is done.
I like to think I’m a pretty good problem solver. Recently I was looking for an easy way to finish writing the books that I wanted to write. The first time I tried it was a little bit like the clogged sink. I had an idea and I tried a couple of things and kept at it until it finally worked.
Then I did it again either for fun or for show I’m not really sure. But I proved myself a second time that my method was a fun and simple and fast approach.
And then I did it a third time. And this time I did it because I wanted to teach others what I had learned.
I’ve perfected my own method to the point where I can write a book in five minute segments. It is simple it is fun and it is fast. I’ve done it three times. I’m using a version of that method right now to get this message out to you.
Once you listen to the 55 minute audio program that I’ve put together for you you might actually have some of that self-confidence you thought you needed. Just like I definitely used some advice that I found about unclogging the sink. It gave me enough to keep going.
What I’ve got is more than enough to keep you going. It’s enough to help you start, write and finish your book.
And when you’re done, miraculously, you’re going to have an incredible amount of self-confidence when it comes to the question of your ability to write a book. And that will be because you will have written your book. Do you see how that works?
Fill in your details in the space below and get started!